Chris' Wonderland

The ones who are doomed for success tend to find solutions; on the contrary, the ones who fail are likly to find excuses. So, don't tell you cannot or don't want to give it up without even a try!

Fram Alice 或許大家會認為被人讚美是異常簡單的事情，了不起就點頭微笑、說聲「謝謝」，或是學馬英九總統講句「謝謝指教」就可以打發了。 　　不過對我而言，我覺得「如何接受他人讚美」是一個不容小覷的學問。（《于美人黃金說話課》頁235） 于氏被讚美第一招：「別急著否定！」 　　或許很多人跟20歲之前的我一樣，很少被別人讚美過，一旦被人讚美時，難免會手足無措，這時人們最直截了當的反應就是：否定。 　　如果有人讚美我：「于美人，妳比電視上看起來還瘦耶！」時，我回應讚美的話是像「拜託～我還是一個胖子呢！」、「屁啦～你是瞎了不成，我明明這麼胖！」、「胡扯！我看電視上看起來也不會胖啊！」之類的話，你覺得讚美我的人臉上會不會出現幾條黑線呢？ 　　我曾經觀察過我工作的環境，我發現人們真的有迅速否定讚美的反射動作。這點倒是讓我感到納悶，如果你對於別人的讚美感覺彆扭，其實可以坦率地點點頭、稍微露出個笑容、就算是傻笑也無妨，或是禮貌地跟別人說聲：「謝謝。」何必要急著講出一些否定的話語呢？ 　　就像有人讚美你最近事業做得不錯，你卻用「餓不死、快活不下去了！」來回應；別人讚美妳身上衣服很漂亮，妳卻冷冷地說：「都是路邊攤買的！我又不是貴婦人。」是不是讓人接不下話呢？ 　　還有很多人會習慣用周星馳的慣用頂嘴方式來否定他人的讚美，當別人讚美你瘦，你回一句：「瘦你的頭啦～」；別人讚美你漂亮，你就頂一句：「漂你的頭啦！」、「亮你的頭啦！」……總之，只要有人想要讚美你，就一律否定到底，這真的是何苦呢？讚美既然是個禮物，那你不妨就大方收下吧！別再多花腦筋想那些否定讚美的話語了！ 于氏被讚美第二招：「收到禮物之後要立即回禮！」 　　這招算是武林絕學，各位讀者朋友一定要學起來。……如果你被讚美時覺得有點彆扭，可以用「立即回禮」的方式來消除彆扭，這就是「以其人之道、還治其人之身」的道理。 　　如果別人讚美你身上的衣服好看，你也可以讚美他身上的衣服也不賴！ 　　如果別人讚美你最近似乎春風得意，你也可以立即回贈一句：「你最近似乎也是春暖花開啊！」 于氏被讚美第三招：「直接讚美別人對你的讚美！」 　　以上的兩招似乎會遇上一個大問題——「對等性」。因為別人讚美你的優良事蹟，也許別人並未擁有，就像一位光頭讚美你的長髮飄逸、魅力無限，妳總不能不假思索地回讚一句...

I read a story passed by my friend. Although I do not know where it exactly comes from or whether it is true, I totally agree with the message it conveys. In fact, it happened to me many times. The situation usually goes like this. My student in tear felt gratitude about my help and asked me why I treated her so nice and how she could pay in return. I told her that I just did my job as a teacher, and I told her if she has ability one day, she could pass the kind to the one in need. I believe a little action can be a great value in life. Take a look and enjoy reading it. One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.' I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and w...

I do not feel good if I lose a game. Likewise, I don't feel good either if I know my students lose a game. That makes me feel I am not good enough to guide them on the right track to success. Two days ago, I have the feeling when I knew my students lost the drama competition, which made me insomnia. I did not tell them so far because I got no feedback from the competition. I am not satisfied with my performance today though I got many positive responses. However, bilingual made me confused and lost my way. Awful! Afwful! For a perfectionist, I will blame myself for long.

4 types of websites A. information or knolwedge e.g. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List of Chinese inventions (issues like a list of jobs or invention) http://www.about.com/ http://www.eyeplorer.com/ (about mind mapping) B. Videos or Images e.g. http://edition.cnn.com/studentnews http://www.youtube.com/ (youtube for esl) http://www.bbc.co.uk/videonation/archive http://1000words.net/ (desccriptive writing; give a concrete image and write) http://www.barsonnoble.com/  (kindle, reader review) C. Real life or authentic language http://shopping.yahoo.com/ (e.g. invention) http://www.amazon.com/ (e.g. book review) http://hotjobs.yahoo.com/ (e.g. apply for jobs) http://eslbee.com/ (language learning) D. language orientated http://www.wordia.com/  (students' second choice) http://www.onelook.com/ http://googlebattle.com/ http://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl http://www.google.com.tw/dictionary  (students' first choice) http://eslbee.com/ http://www...

What I learned and heard today in the Yangmin mountains was "We need to have 'image logical thinking.'"

Be a negative puller! If you find your thoughts and conversations stuck in a negative pattern, enlist others to break the habit together. Sometimes we start out with the best intentions to think and speak only positive thoughts, but the people around us throw us off course. Not everyone fully understands the power our thoughts and words have, or even if they do, they may be stuck in old patterns of negativity. Much of our habitual communication takes the form of complaining and criticizing, and it can be hard to find a way into certain conversations without lapsing into those old habits. However, we always have the option not to participate in negativity or to find a way to influence the situation in a positive direction. In the right company, you may even be able to directly acknowledge the fact that things have taken a negative turn, thus freeing yourself and others from the negative pull.... .